"People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked"
About this Quote
The intent feels practical, almost blue-collar in its moral clarity. Newman isn’t preaching about soulmates; he’s stripping marriage down to agency. The subtext is blunt: if you’re still here, own it. That doesn’t erase the pressures that can make leaving harder - money, kids, religion, reputation - but the quote refuses to let those pressures become a costume for passivity. It’s a small rebuke to the cultural script that treats long marriage as proof of virtue by default, as if endurance alone equals love.
Coming from an actor whose public image mixed charisma with steadiness - and whose partnership with Joanne Woodward became its own cultural shorthand for “it can last” - the line reads less like cynicism than like a guardrail. It’s also a quiet defense of marriage against both sentimentality and fatalism: commitment isn’t enforced; it’s authored, over and over, by the people inside it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Marriage |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Newman, Paul. (2026, January 16). People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-stay-married-because-they-want-to-not-93811/
Chicago Style
Newman, Paul. "People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-stay-married-because-they-want-to-not-93811/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-stay-married-because-they-want-to-not-93811/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








