"People who have what they want are fond of telling people who haven't what they want that they really don't want it"
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The brilliance is in the reversal of authority. The person with the prize is presumed to have insight; Nash suggests they're often the least trustworthy witness. Wanting is treated like a childish phase you outgrow once you've arrived. But that's precisely when you have the most incentive to redefine the want as overrated, corrupting, or not worth the trouble, because that reframing absolves you from sharing it, questioning how you got it, or admitting how arbitrary the distribution can be.
Context matters: Nash wrote in a 20th-century America increasingly fluent in the language of self-help, status, and polite class management. His comic understatement exposes a genteel cruelty common in upwardly mobile cultures: the soft-spoken dismissal that keeps inequality from sounding like a problem. It's not cynicism for its own sake; it's a warning about how easily empathy is replaced by rationalization when your needs are already met.
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Nash, Ogden. (2026, January 17). People who have what they want are fond of telling people who haven't what they want that they really don't want it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-who-have-what-they-want-are-fond-of-29014/
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Nash, Ogden. "People who have what they want are fond of telling people who haven't what they want that they really don't want it." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-who-have-what-they-want-are-fond-of-29014/.
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"People who have what they want are fond of telling people who haven't what they want that they really don't want it." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-who-have-what-they-want-are-fond-of-29014/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.








