"Pet me, touch me, love me, that's what I get when I perform. That's when I'm really getting what I want"
About this Quote
The intent isn’t to scandalize; it’s to name the payoff. "That’s what I get when I perform" makes affection the wage, not a bonus. In mid-century show business - especially for actresses trained to be radiant, agreeable, and perpetually available - validation wasn’t just personal; it was professional. The culture rewarded women who could translate charm into devotion, then pretend it came effortlessly. Stevens drops the pretense. She’s not claiming art as transcendence. She’s describing it as a reliable mechanism for being wanted.
The subtext is thornier: if love is best accessed through performing, what happens when the lights go down? The line hints at dependence, even a kind of hunger, but it also reads as pragmatic self-knowledge. She’s articulating the performer’s bargain: you offer a version of yourself that’s legible and desirable, and the crowd returns warmth you can’t easily demand in ordinary life.
It works because it’s both disarming and bleak - a confession delivered with showbiz breeziness, letting the truth land without begging for sympathy.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Stevens, Connie. (2026, January 17). Pet me, touch me, love me, that's what I get when I perform. That's when I'm really getting what I want. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/pet-me-touch-me-love-me-thats-what-i-get-when-i-49945/
Chicago Style
Stevens, Connie. "Pet me, touch me, love me, that's what I get when I perform. That's when I'm really getting what I want." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/pet-me-touch-me-love-me-thats-what-i-get-when-i-49945/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Pet me, touch me, love me, that's what I get when I perform. That's when I'm really getting what I want." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/pet-me-touch-me-love-me-thats-what-i-get-when-i-49945/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.




