"Power is like being a lady... if you have to tell people you are, you aren't"
About this Quote
The “lady” comparison is doing heavy work. On its surface it flatters a certain old-world code: status as manners, restraint, composure. Underneath, it’s a gendered trap set with a smile. “Lady” is a role policed by others, historically granted (or denied) by class and reputation. Thatcher flips that policing into a doctrine of authority: real dominance is socially ratified, not self-declared. She’s telling rivals that insecurity shows, and telling allies that legitimacy is measured in obedience, not speeches.
Context matters because Thatcher governed as a woman in a system built by men and for men, where accusations of shrillness or overreach were always waiting. The quote is her way of preempting that scrutiny: don’t argue for your right to command; make the room behave as if it’s already settled. It’s also a warning about leadership in general: institutions don’t run on personal insistence, they run on compliance. Announced power is often just aspiration. Quiet power is infrastructure.
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| Topic | Leadership |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Thatcher, Margaret. (2026, January 15). Power is like being a lady... if you have to tell people you are, you aren't. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/power-is-like-being-a-lady-if-you-have-to-tell-28178/
Chicago Style
Thatcher, Margaret. "Power is like being a lady... if you have to tell people you are, you aren't." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/power-is-like-being-a-lady-if-you-have-to-tell-28178/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Power is like being a lady... if you have to tell people you are, you aren't." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/power-is-like-being-a-lady-if-you-have-to-tell-28178/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










