"Prejudice is like a hair across your cheek. You can't see it, you can't find it with your fingers, but you keep brushing at it because the feel of it is irritating"
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The metaphor also flips the usual framing. Prejudice isn’t just the harm done to the target; it’s the psychic static it creates in everyone forced to move through it. “You can’t see it” captures how bias hides behind manners, policies, and “that’s just how things are.” “You can’t find it with your fingers” hints at how clumsy our usual tools are - denial, politeness, even good intentions - when we try to grasp what’s wrong. Yet you keep brushing anyway, repeatedly, publicly, sometimes to the annoyance of others. That’s activism in miniature: not a single heroic act, but the exhausting repetition of insisting something is there when the room pretends it isn’t.
Anderson’s context sharpens the edge. A world-class contralto barred from major venues because she was Black, she understood how discrimination could be both blatant and strangely evasive - people refusing you while insisting they’re being reasonable. The quote carries the fatigue of that contradiction. Prejudice irritates because it won’t resolve; it keeps returning, demanding attention, disrupting your composure. The subtext is a warning and a permission slip: if you feel compelled to “brush at it,” you’re not being overly sensitive. You’re responding normally to an abnormal condition.
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| Topic | Equality |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Anderson, Marian. (2026, January 15). Prejudice is like a hair across your cheek. You can't see it, you can't find it with your fingers, but you keep brushing at it because the feel of it is irritating. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prejudice-is-like-a-hair-across-your-cheek-you-156735/
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Anderson, Marian. "Prejudice is like a hair across your cheek. You can't see it, you can't find it with your fingers, but you keep brushing at it because the feel of it is irritating." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prejudice-is-like-a-hair-across-your-cheek-you-156735/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Prejudice is like a hair across your cheek. You can't see it, you can't find it with your fingers, but you keep brushing at it because the feel of it is irritating." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prejudice-is-like-a-hair-across-your-cheek-you-156735/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.













