"Proverbs often contradict one another, as any reader soon discovers. The sagacity that advises us to look before we leap promptly warns us that if we hesitate we are lost; that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight, out of mind"
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The subtext is quietly skeptical about the way culture launders opinions into authority. Proverbs sound ancient, communal, almost inevitable. By pointing out how easily they cancel each other, Rosten demotes them from moral compass to rhetorical tool: portable, context-proof, and therefore suspiciously adaptable. “Look before we leap” and “he who hesitates is lost” don’t describe reality so much as they justify a decision after the fact. You can be prudent or bold and still claim the backing of tradition.
Context matters, too. Writing in a 20th-century America saturated with self-help maxims, advertising slogans, and inherited folk sayings, Rosten is poking at the democratization of wisdom: everyone can cite a proverb, so everyone can sound right. His list ends with love (“absence makes the heart grow fonder” vs. “out of sight, out of mind”), a sly reminder that even the most sentimental “truths” are situational. The real lesson isn’t to discard proverbs, but to notice how readily we use them to stop thinking.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rosten, Leo. (2026, January 15). Proverbs often contradict one another, as any reader soon discovers. The sagacity that advises us to look before we leap promptly warns us that if we hesitate we are lost; that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight, out of mind. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/proverbs-often-contradict-one-another-as-any-156563/
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Rosten, Leo. "Proverbs often contradict one another, as any reader soon discovers. The sagacity that advises us to look before we leap promptly warns us that if we hesitate we are lost; that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight, out of mind." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/proverbs-often-contradict-one-another-as-any-156563/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Proverbs often contradict one another, as any reader soon discovers. The sagacity that advises us to look before we leap promptly warns us that if we hesitate we are lost; that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight, out of mind." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/proverbs-often-contradict-one-another-as-any-156563/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







