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Life & Mortality Quote by Mary Wortley Montagu

"Prudent people are very happy; 'tis an exceeding fine thing, that's certain, but I was born without it, and shall retain to my day of Death the Humour of saying what I think"

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Prudence gets framed here as a kind of social anesthesia: effective, respectable, and quietly joyless. Montagu opens with a sly concession to the era's reigning virtue - be careful, be agreeable, be safe - then punctures it with the one thing polite society can't metabolize: a stubborn appetite for candor. The line is built like a curtsey that turns into a kick. "Prudent people are very happy" sounds like a proverb; the follow-up, "an exceeding fine thing", lays on praise so thick it reads as mockery. She's flattering prudence the way a sharp writer flatters a bore: just enough to make the insult legally deniable.

The subtext is gendered and tactical. In early 18th-century Britain, a woman's "prudence" often meant self-censorship dressed up as morality, a performance designed to preserve reputation in a culture eager to punish female outspokenness as scandal. Montagu, a celebrated letter-writer with a public profile and private vulnerabilities, knows the cost of speaking plainly. By claiming she was "born without it", she reframes what society would label a flaw into temperament, almost fate. It's not irresponsibility; it's constitution.

"Humour" does double duty: it softens the defiance into wit, but also signals a steady, enduring disposition. She isn't promising truth-telling as heroic principle. She's admitting it as an itch she can't stop scratching. That honesty is the power move: she anticipates condemnation, shrugs, and keeps talking anyway.

Quote Details

TopicHonesty & Integrity
SourceAttributed to Lady Mary Wortley Montagu; appears on Wikiquote (entry "Mary Wortley Montagu") as part of her quoted letters (primary letter/date not specified on that page).
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Montagu, Mary Wortley. (2026, January 15). Prudent people are very happy; 'tis an exceeding fine thing, that's certain, but I was born without it, and shall retain to my day of Death the Humour of saying what I think. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prudent-people-are-very-happy-tis-an-exceeding-165459/

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Montagu, Mary Wortley. "Prudent people are very happy; 'tis an exceeding fine thing, that's certain, but I was born without it, and shall retain to my day of Death the Humour of saying what I think." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prudent-people-are-very-happy-tis-an-exceeding-165459/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Prudent people are very happy; 'tis an exceeding fine thing, that's certain, but I was born without it, and shall retain to my day of Death the Humour of saying what I think." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/prudent-people-are-very-happy-tis-an-exceeding-165459/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Mary Wortley Montagu

Mary Wortley Montagu (May 26, 1689 - August 21, 1762) was a Writer from England.

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