"Questions are never indiscreet, answers sometimes are"
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Wilde turns etiquette into a trapdoor: the question, supposedly the rude act, is declared innocent; the answer, supposedly the polite repayment, is where danger lives. It’s a neat inversion that flatters curiosity while indicting candor. In a culture obsessed with manners, Wilde’s line smuggles in a sharper claim: “indiscretion” isn’t about asking; it’s about revealing. The social crime isn’t inquiry, it’s disclosure that punctures the agreed-upon fictions holding a room together.
The subtext is pure Wildean theatre. A question can be framed as playful, abstract, deniable. An answer is a commitment. Once you answer, you’ve chosen a version of yourself in public and you can’t take it back. The line is also a quiet defense of the interrogator-as-performer: the person asking gets to look bold, even intimate, while outsourcing the risk to whoever responds. Wilde is winking at how power works in conversation. The asker controls the stage; the answerer supplies the incriminating props.
Context matters: late-Victorian Britain prized decorum and punished scandal, while simultaneously feeding on it. Wilde lived inside that contradiction, both as its master stylist and, eventually, as its casualty. Coming from him, this isn’t just salon wisdom; it’s a survival manual. Ask anything. Just remember that honesty is not a virtue in polite society so much as a liability with excellent diction.
The subtext is pure Wildean theatre. A question can be framed as playful, abstract, deniable. An answer is a commitment. Once you answer, you’ve chosen a version of yourself in public and you can’t take it back. The line is also a quiet defense of the interrogator-as-performer: the person asking gets to look bold, even intimate, while outsourcing the risk to whoever responds. Wilde is winking at how power works in conversation. The asker controls the stage; the answerer supplies the incriminating props.
Context matters: late-Victorian Britain prized decorum and punished scandal, while simultaneously feeding on it. Wilde lived inside that contradiction, both as its master stylist and, eventually, as its casualty. Coming from him, this isn’t just salon wisdom; it’s a survival manual. Ask anything. Just remember that honesty is not a virtue in polite society so much as a liability with excellent diction.
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| Topic | Witty One-Liners |
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| Source | Rejected source: The Happy Prince: And Other Tales (Oscar Wilde, George Percy Jacomb Hood, 1888)IA: happyprinceando00hoodgoog
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| Featured | This quote was our Quote of the Day on December 5, 2024 |
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