"Romance is mush, stifling those who strive"
About this Quote
The sharper turn is “stifling those who strive.” That clause exposes the target: people trying to make something - art, a life, an identity - under pressure. Romance here reads less as intimacy than as a cultural script that demands surrender: prioritize coupling, soften your ambition, make yourself palatable. Strayhorn’s era offered especially narrow scripts, and his own life as a gay Black man in mid-century America meant the “romantic” ideal was often both inaccessible and coercive. When the official story doesn’t fit you, it can feel less like comfort than a chokehold.
There’s also professional subtext: in popular music, romance sells. The market rewards lush declarations; Strayhorn’s line pushes back against the industry’s sweet-tooth, insisting that striving - the restless, rigorous pursuit of excellence - gets drowned in syrup. The intent isn’t to banish love. It’s to rescue depth from cliché, and to defend ambition from the smothering demand to be sentimental on cue.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Strayhorn, Billy. (2026, January 16). Romance is mush, stifling those who strive. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/romance-is-mush-stifling-those-who-strive-98278/
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Strayhorn, Billy. "Romance is mush, stifling those who strive." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/romance-is-mush-stifling-those-who-strive-98278/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Romance is mush, stifling those who strive." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/romance-is-mush-stifling-those-who-strive-98278/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









