""Sex" is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other"
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Leave it to the Marquis de Sade to dress provocation up as common sense. By placing sex alongside eating and drinking, he’s not just normalizing desire; he’s flattening the moral hierarchy that 18th-century Europe worked hard to preserve. Food and water are necessities, so the comparison quietly smuggles in a claim of right: if society doesn’t shame you for hunger, it has no legitimate basis to shame you for lust. The line’s cleverness is how calmly it asserts something meant to sound scandalous.
The subtext is more combative than liberatory. “Restraint” and “false modesty” aren’t merely personal inhibitions; they’re social technologies. Church doctrine, aristocratic etiquette, and the policing of women’s virtue all depend on treating sex as spiritually dangerous rather than bodily ordinary. Sade’s sentence attacks that system at the root by rebranding sexual appetite as just another metabolic fact.
Context sharpens the edge. Sade wrote in an era obsessed with controlling bodies: laws around “public decency,” the confessional’s scrutiny of private acts, and the Enlightenment’s fascination with categorizing human behavior. He’s adjacent to Enlightenment materialism, but he twists it into a darker argument: if humans are machines of appetite, morality starts to look like costume jewelry.
The intent, then, isn’t tenderness or sex-positivity in the modern sense. It’s a wedge driven into the gap between nature and virtue, daring readers to admit how much of “modesty” is performance, and how quickly “restraint” becomes someone else’s power.
The subtext is more combative than liberatory. “Restraint” and “false modesty” aren’t merely personal inhibitions; they’re social technologies. Church doctrine, aristocratic etiquette, and the policing of women’s virtue all depend on treating sex as spiritually dangerous rather than bodily ordinary. Sade’s sentence attacks that system at the root by rebranding sexual appetite as just another metabolic fact.
Context sharpens the edge. Sade wrote in an era obsessed with controlling bodies: laws around “public decency,” the confessional’s scrutiny of private acts, and the Enlightenment’s fascination with categorizing human behavior. He’s adjacent to Enlightenment materialism, but he twists it into a darker argument: if humans are machines of appetite, morality starts to look like costume jewelry.
The intent, then, isn’t tenderness or sex-positivity in the modern sense. It’s a wedge driven into the gap between nature and virtue, daring readers to admit how much of “modesty” is performance, and how quickly “restraint” becomes someone else’s power.
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