"Sexuality is a big issue, but there are others - how much you commit to a relationship, to social obligation, to honesty and being honest with yourself"
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The real argument sits in the list that follows, which reads like a director’s checklist for human drama: commitment, obligation, honesty, self-honesty. Lee is shifting the audience from labels to behaviors, from category to consequence. “How much you commit” is the pressure point; it implies that desire is only one axis, while the harder story is what you do after desire appears - what you risk, what you betray, what you choose to protect. “Social obligation” nods to the forces Lee returns to again and again: family, tradition, the gaze of community, the scripts that outlive our private feelings.
The sting is “being honest with yourself,” a phrase that sounds gentle but is basically an accusation. Self-knowledge is presented as labor, not a slogan, and honesty as something you can fail at even when you think you’re telling the truth. In the context of Lee’s films, that’s the point: the tragedy isn’t wanting; it’s the compromises we call necessity.
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"Sexuality is a big issue, but there are others - how much you commit to a relationship, to social obligation, to honesty and being honest with yourself." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/sexuality-is-a-big-issue-but-there-are-others--169964/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.



