"Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight: always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary?"
About this Quote
“Shall we make a new rule…from tonight” has the intimacy of a curtain call, a private pact made in the afterglow of feeling. It’s also a playwright’s move: morality framed as a choice in real time, not an abstract virtue. “Tonight” implies immediacy, the way resolve is easiest when the heart is already softened, and hardest when tomorrow’s irritations arrive. The subtext: you will need a rule because your instincts won’t reliably carry you there.
Context matters: Barrie wrote in an era when British social life prized restraint, propriety, and a stiff upper lip that could look a lot like emotional starvation. His theater often smuggled tenderness into a culture suspicious of it. This line offers an alternative etiquette: not politeness, but generosity; not niceness, but attention.
Its durability comes from how small it sounds and how radical it is. “A little” lowers the barrier to entry; anyone can overpay in kindness by a penny. But repeated daily, that penny becomes a countercultural practice: choosing compassion even when you could get away with indifference.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
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| Source | Verified source: The Little White Bird (James M. Barrie, 1902)
Evidence: Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight: always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary? (Chapter 4 ("A Night-Piece"); page number varies by edition). This line appears in J. M. Barrie’s novel The Little White Bird (first published November 1902). In the Project Gutenberg transcription, it appears in Chapter IV, titled "A Night-Piece." A readable transcription is also available at Wikisource (The Little White Bird/Chapter 4), showing the sentence verbatim in context. Because page numbering differs between the UK (Hodder & Stoughton) and US (Scribner’s) 1902 printings and later reprints, the most stable pinpoint is the chapter, not a single page number. The earliest verifiable appearance is therefore in the 1902 book (primary source), not a later speech or interview. Other candidates (1) The Power of Kindness (Sandra Lee Keefer, 2001) compilation95.0% ... Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight : always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary . " Sir Jam... |
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