"Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly"
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Food, in M. F. K. Fisher's hands, is never just dinner; it's a social contract with teeth. Calling the act of sharing a meal "intimate" yanks it out of the cozy realm of hospitality and into something closer to confession. The line has the poised severity of a raised eyebrow: you think you're being casual, but you're actually revealing your appetites, your manners, your class training, your generosity, your loneliness. Fisher reminds us that the table is one of the few everyday stages where the body is unavoidably present. You chew, you reach, you spill, you want more. You can't curate yourself as cleanly as you can in conversation.
"Should not be indulged in lightly" adds a moral edge, and it's slyly double-edged. "Indulged" hints at pleasure, even decadence, but also at poor judgment: the way people indulge a bad habit because it feels good. Fisher is warning against treating communion as content, the meal as a prop, companionship as a pastime. Sharing food can be tender, but it can also be transactional, coercive, a performance of niceness that masks power. Who hosts, who serves, who pays, who gets seconds: none of it is neutral.
Context matters. Fisher wrote through war, austerity, and shifting domestic roles, when food signaled scarcity, care, and status. Her sentence insists that eating together is never merely logistical. It's an invitation into proximity, and proximity has consequences.
"Should not be indulged in lightly" adds a moral edge, and it's slyly double-edged. "Indulged" hints at pleasure, even decadence, but also at poor judgment: the way people indulge a bad habit because it feels good. Fisher is warning against treating communion as content, the meal as a prop, companionship as a pastime. Sharing food can be tender, but it can also be transactional, coercive, a performance of niceness that masks power. Who hosts, who serves, who pays, who gets seconds: none of it is neutral.
Context matters. Fisher wrote through war, austerity, and shifting domestic roles, when food signaled scarcity, care, and status. Her sentence insists that eating together is never merely logistical. It's an invitation into proximity, and proximity has consequences.
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| Topic | Food |
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