"Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly"
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"Should not be indulged in lightly" adds a moral edge, and it's slyly double-edged. "Indulged" hints at pleasure, even decadence, but also at poor judgment: the way people indulge a bad habit because it feels good. Fisher is warning against treating communion as content, the meal as a prop, companionship as a pastime. Sharing food can be tender, but it can also be transactional, coercive, a performance of niceness that masks power. Who hosts, who serves, who pays, who gets seconds: none of it is neutral.
Context matters. Fisher wrote through war, austerity, and shifting domestic roles, when food signaled scarcity, care, and status. Her sentence insists that eating together is never merely logistical. It's an invitation into proximity, and proximity has consequences.
Quote Details
| Topic | Food |
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| Source | Verified source: An Alphabet for Gourmets (M. F. K. Fisher, 1949)
Evidence: This misanthropic attitude is one I am not proud of, but it is firmly there, based on my increasing conviction that sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly. (Chapter: A is for Dining Alone; page 3 in later collected edition The Art of Eating (1954)). The quote is verifiably by M. F. K. Fisher and appears in the essay/chapter "A is for Dining Alone" from her book An Alphabet for Gourmets. Google Books' 'Popular passages' for The Art of Eating identifies the passage on page 78 of that volume and notes it appears in books from 1954 onward; The surrounding text matches excerpts reproduced by readers citing the opening of "A is for Dining Alone." WorldCat confirms An Alphabet for Gourmets is one of the constituent works collected in The Art of Eating. Secondary discussions of the essay state the piece was originally published in Gourmet magazine in December 1948, before book publication. The earliest primary-book publication I could verify is 1949 in An Alphabet for Gourmets. Other candidates (1) The Shared-Meal Revolution (Carol Archambeault, 2013) compilation95.0% ... M. F. K. Fisher said, “Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in li... |
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