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Life & Wisdom Quote by Robert B. Parker

"She found me intolerable. But she got to know me, and I wore her down"

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Romance, the hardboiled way: not a thunderbolt, a siege. Robert B. Parker, a crime writer who built a career on laconic charm and controlled violence, gives you a love story compressed into two blunt beats: disdain, then attrition. The first sentence is clean humiliation - “intolerable” isn’t cute-annoying; it’s morally disqualifying. The second pivots with a shrugging confidence that’s almost a dare. He doesn’t claim he improved. He claims he persisted.

That’s the Parker subtext: relationships as tests of endurance, not revelations of compatibility. “She got to know me” sounds like intimacy, but it’s immediately undercut by “and I wore her down,” a phrase borrowed from interrogations, bad habits, and stone steps. The humor is in the shamelessness. It’s self-incriminating, then self-congratulatory, the voice of a narrator who wants credit for honesty while still enjoying the win.

Context matters because Parker’s world (think Spenser and the code-driven detective tradition) prizes persistence as a masculine virtue: keep showing up, keep taking hits, outlast the opposition. When that ethic gets rerouted into romance, it reveals an uncomfortable cultural logic: affection as something extracted over time, not freely given. The line works because it’s funny and vaguely sour at once, a one-liner that flatters the speaker’s grit while exposing the thin line between devotion and pressure. It’s not a love anthem; it’s a character tell.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Parker, Robert B. (2026, January 16). She found me intolerable. But she got to know me, and I wore her down. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-found-me-intolerable-but-she-got-to-know-me-85905/

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Parker, Robert B. "She found me intolerable. But she got to know me, and I wore her down." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-found-me-intolerable-but-she-got-to-know-me-85905/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"She found me intolerable. But she got to know me, and I wore her down." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-found-me-intolerable-but-she-got-to-know-me-85905/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.

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Robert B. Parker (September 17, 1932 - January 18, 2010) was a Writer from USA.

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