"She is Cuba. If you want to love her, you have to be with her, but you can't be with her in her current state. It's the point of view of all exiles - you have to leave the thing you cherish most"
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The phrasing does a lot of quiet work. "If you want to love her, you have to be with her" frames love as presence, not nostalgia; it’s a rebuke to the comfortable version of longing that can be performed from afar. Then he snaps the trap shut: "but you can't be with her in her current state". The "current state" is doing double duty, pointing to Cuba’s political condition while also suggesting a beloved who is wounded, compromised, unrecognizable. Loving her becomes both necessary and impossible - the defining paradox of exile.
By calling it "the point of view of all exiles", Garcia widens his own Cuban-American experience into a shared psychology: displacement as loyalty. The subtext isn’t just sorrow; it’s an argument against simplistic judgments ("Why don’t you go back?") and against simplistic patriotism. Exile here isn’t lack of love, it’s love that refuses to pretend conditions don’t matter. The cruelest twist lands in the last clause: you leave "the thing you cherish most", not because you stopped cherishing it, but because staying would mean surrendering what made it worth cherishing.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Garcia, Andy. (2026, January 17). She is Cuba. If you want to love her, you have to be with her, but you can't be with her in her current state. It's the point of view of all exiles - you have to leave the thing you cherish most. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-is-cuba-if-you-want-to-love-her-you-have-to-40979/
Chicago Style
Garcia, Andy. "She is Cuba. If you want to love her, you have to be with her, but you can't be with her in her current state. It's the point of view of all exiles - you have to leave the thing you cherish most." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-is-cuba-if-you-want-to-love-her-you-have-to-40979/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"She is Cuba. If you want to love her, you have to be with her, but you can't be with her in her current state. It's the point of view of all exiles - you have to leave the thing you cherish most." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/she-is-cuba-if-you-want-to-love-her-you-have-to-40979/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.




