"So the lover must struggle for words"
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Eliot wrote in the wake of a culture newly allergic to grand declarations. Modernist poetry is often staged as a revolt against Victorian gush, and this line carries that recoil inside the body. The lover “struggles” because confession risks melodrama, and melodrama risks social death. To speak plainly is to sound naive; to speak cleverly is to evade. The result is a kind of romantic stammer: desire filtered through self-consciousness, irony, and the fear of being overheard by one’s own inner critic.
The syntax is also tellingly impersonal. Not “I struggle,” but “the lover,” as if the speaker is watching human intimacy from behind glass. That distance is pure Eliot: the self split into performer and auditor, longing and judgment. The line implies that love isn’t just an emotion but a rhetorical problem, a negotiation with the limits of speech. In Eliot’s universe, the deepest feeling doesn’t guarantee the right language; it exposes how thin our language can be.
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| Topic | Love |
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