"Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers"
About this Quote
The subtext is about the danger of mistaking familiarity for knowledge. You can memorize a partner’s coffee order, survive their family holidays, learn their childhood anecdotes by heart and still never meet their inner life. Moore’s genius as a sitcom actor was always in playing the gap between the cheerful surface and the complicated interior; this quote reads like the backstage version of that performance. It’s a warning about the scripts we write for each other: roles (“the dependable one,” “the fixer,” “the fun one”) that keep a relationship running until they start replacing actual contact.
Culturally, it sits neatly in the post-60s, post-divorce-revolution America Moore helped portray onscreen: adulthood as self-invention, relationships as negotiated rather than ordained. The line doesn’t romanticize heartbreak; it diagnoses it. Sometimes closeness isn’t a bridge. It’s just proximity, and time is what reveals whether there was ever a crossing.
Quote Details
| Topic | Broken Friendship |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Moore, Mary Tyler. (2026, January 15). Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/sometimes-you-have-to-get-to-know-someone-really-93697/
Chicago Style
Moore, Mary Tyler. "Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/sometimes-you-have-to-get-to-know-someone-really-93697/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/sometimes-you-have-to-get-to-know-someone-really-93697/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.








