"Stranger, if you passing meet me and desire to speak to me, why should you not speak to me? And why should I not speak to you?"
About this Quote
The rhetoric is deceptively simple. Whitman doubles the question, mirrors “you” and “me,” and makes conversation sound like a basic civic right. That symmetry matters. In mid-19th-century America, public life was expanding, cities were swelling, and social hierarchies were still rigidly policed by class, gender, and race. Whitman’s democratic imagination tries to short-circuit those gatekeeping reflexes. The stranger isn’t a threat or a curiosity; the stranger is a potential comrade. The repeated “why” is a quiet indictment of custom.
There’s also an erotic, intimate undertow Whitman rarely bothers to hide. Addressing a passerby collapses public and private space: the street becomes a site of possibility, where the body and the voice can cross boundaries that society insists are fixed. It’s quintessential Whitman: an America dreamed not as an abstract nation, but as a series of bold, unembarrassed encounters. The poem doesn’t beg for connection; it presumes we’re built for it, and challenges the reader to live up to that premise.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass — "Song of Myself", Section 6 (contains the line beginning "Stranger, if you passing meet me..."). Appears in 1855 and later editions. |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Whitman, Walt. (2026, January 17). Stranger, if you passing meet me and desire to speak to me, why should you not speak to me? And why should I not speak to you? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/stranger-if-you-passing-meet-me-and-desire-to-34903/
Chicago Style
Whitman, Walt. "Stranger, if you passing meet me and desire to speak to me, why should you not speak to me? And why should I not speak to you?" FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/stranger-if-you-passing-meet-me-and-desire-to-34903/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Stranger, if you passing meet me and desire to speak to me, why should you not speak to me? And why should I not speak to you?" FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/stranger-if-you-passing-meet-me-and-desire-to-34903/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.







