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Time & Perspective Quote by Jane Fonda

"Ted needs someone to be there 100% of the time. He thinks that's love. It's not love - it's babysitting"

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A clean knife twist disguised as plain talk: Jane Fonda takes a culturally sanctified word, "love", and swaps it for a job description. The line works because it refuses the romance-novel framing of neediness. "100% of the time" isn’t devotion; it’s surveillance. It turns intimacy into a shift schedule, where someone else’s emotional stability becomes your unpaid labor.

The name "Ted" makes it feel personal, almost domestic, but the argument is bigger than one relationship. Fonda is calling out a common scam in heterosexual storytelling: the fragile or demanding man recast as a project, and the woman praised for managing him. When she says "He thinks that's love", she’s pinpointing the self-serving delusion that need equals depth. Need can be real, even painful, but the subtext is about accountability: dependency isn’t a love language; it’s a transfer of responsibility.

"Babysitting" is the strategic insult. It infantilizes Ted, yes, but it also indicts the expectation placed on the partner: you’re not a lover, you’re a caretaker keeping someone from falling apart. Coming from Fonda, an actress whose public life has long been entwined with the politics of womanhood and self-definition, the quote reads like boundary-setting as cultural critique. It’s not just a breakup line; it’s a refusal to let emotional exhaustion masquerade as virtue.

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Jane Fonda (born December 21, 1937) is a Actress from USA.

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