"That is the great mistake about the affections. It is not the rise and fall of empires, the birth and death of kings, or the marching of armies that move them most. When they answer from their depths, it is to the domestic joys and tragedies of life"
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The line works because it names what propaganda and patriotic myth-making often try to override: most people don’t actually live inside “the marching of armies.” They live inside childcare, bills, illness, estrangement, reconciliation - the private weather that determines whether you can sleep at night. Barr’s “answer from their depths” gives feeling a moral authority, suggesting that genuine emotion is involuntary and diagnostic. If your heart responds more to a family crisis than to a coronation, that’s not small-mindedness; it’s accuracy.
Context matters: Barr wrote popular fiction in a century when the novel was the great empathy machine, specializing in exactly these “domestic joys and tragedies.” She’s defending her medium and her subject matter against the charge of triviality. Subtextually, it’s also a feminist argument without the banner: women’s sphere, so often dismissed as mere “home,” is where the stakes are real, where loyalties are formed, and where history quietly gets its motives.
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| Topic | Family |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Barr, Amelia. (2026, January 15). That is the great mistake about the affections. It is not the rise and fall of empires, the birth and death of kings, or the marching of armies that move them most. When they answer from their depths, it is to the domestic joys and tragedies of life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/that-is-the-great-mistake-about-the-affections-it-149767/
Chicago Style
Barr, Amelia. "That is the great mistake about the affections. It is not the rise and fall of empires, the birth and death of kings, or the marching of armies that move them most. When they answer from their depths, it is to the domestic joys and tragedies of life." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/that-is-the-great-mistake-about-the-affections-it-149767/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"That is the great mistake about the affections. It is not the rise and fall of empires, the birth and death of kings, or the marching of armies that move them most. When they answer from their depths, it is to the domestic joys and tragedies of life." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/that-is-the-great-mistake-about-the-affections-it-149767/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.












