"That only is a disgrace to a man which he has deserved to suffer"
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That’s the intent: a stoic recalibration of shame. Phaedrus isn’t offering comfort so much as issuing a challenge. If you’re clean, you’re not disgraced; you’re being tested. If you’re not clean, the pain is not an injustice but a receipt. The subtext is disciplinary, almost legalistic: suffering becomes evidence in a moral ledger. It’s also a subtle antidote to victimhood before the term existed. He refuses to let misfortune automatically confer nobility.
As a poet best known for fables, Phaedrus specializes in portable ethics - short lines that travel easily from story to street. This one reads like advice to anyone living under unequal power: emperors, patrons, and public opinion can make you suffer, but they can’t manufacture your shame without your complicity. There’s a quiet, hard-edged freedom in that, and also a warning: if disgrace sticks, look first at what you did to deserve it.
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"That only is a disgrace to a man which he has deserved to suffer." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/that-only-is-a-disgrace-to-a-man-which-he-has-8691/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.













