"That's when the great stuff happens, when you're not checking yourself all the time, being critical of yourself and what other people are doing"
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Her phrasing is tellingly non-mystical. No talk of genius, no reverence for suffering. It’s practical, almost backstage advice: stop policing the moment. The subtext is that self-critique has its place, just not during the act itself. Kane implicitly splits the process into phases: play first, edit later. That’s an actor’s truth but also a broader cultural one in an era of constant self-branding, where even private impulses are auditioning for public approval.
She also slips in a second target: “what other people are doing.” That’s the social-media brain, the competitive comparison loop, the reflex to judge colleagues as a way of stabilizing your own anxiety. Kane argues that great work isn’t born from vigilance; it’s born from attention - to the scene, to your partner, to the weird, risky impulse you can’t justify yet. In that sense, the quote is less about confidence than about trust: trusting the moment to be messier than your inner critic would ever allow.
Quote Details
| Topic | Live in the Moment |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kane, Carol. (2026, January 15). That's when the great stuff happens, when you're not checking yourself all the time, being critical of yourself and what other people are doing. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/thats-when-the-great-stuff-happens-when-youre-not-142073/
Chicago Style
Kane, Carol. "That's when the great stuff happens, when you're not checking yourself all the time, being critical of yourself and what other people are doing." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/thats-when-the-great-stuff-happens-when-youre-not-142073/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"That's when the great stuff happens, when you're not checking yourself all the time, being critical of yourself and what other people are doing." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/thats-when-the-great-stuff-happens-when-youre-not-142073/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.
