"The act of longing for something will always be more intense than the requiting of it"
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Longing is the engine; getting what you want is the quiet comedown. Gail Godwin’s line works because it refuses the sentimental lie baked into so much romance plot and consumer fantasy: that fulfillment is the peak. Instead, she elevates anticipation as the more ferocious state, a kind of emotional overclocking where the mind supplies limitless detail and the heart never has to contend with frayed edges, bad timing, or human inconsistency.
“Will always” is the dare here. Godwin isn’t making room for the rare, transcendent requital; she’s naming a pattern that feels almost structural. Longing is pure narrative: it thrives on projection, on the clean architecture of “if only.” Requiting is logistical. It introduces reality’s unromantic inventory - compromises, routines, the other person’s full interior life. Desire, left unanswered, can stay perfect because it stays unfinished. Completion is a form of editing, and editing always cuts intensity.
The subtext carries a small warning disguised as insight: if you chase intensity as proof of authenticity, you may end up addicted to wanting rather than living. Godwin, a novelist attentive to the way people author their own heartbreak, is pointing to longing as a creative act - the self as storyteller, casting an object (a lover, a career, a self-image) as the missing piece. Requital ends the story; longing keeps it narratable. That’s why it burns hotter. It has no ceiling.
“Will always” is the dare here. Godwin isn’t making room for the rare, transcendent requital; she’s naming a pattern that feels almost structural. Longing is pure narrative: it thrives on projection, on the clean architecture of “if only.” Requiting is logistical. It introduces reality’s unromantic inventory - compromises, routines, the other person’s full interior life. Desire, left unanswered, can stay perfect because it stays unfinished. Completion is a form of editing, and editing always cuts intensity.
The subtext carries a small warning disguised as insight: if you chase intensity as proof of authenticity, you may end up addicted to wanting rather than living. Godwin, a novelist attentive to the way people author their own heartbreak, is pointing to longing as a creative act - the self as storyteller, casting an object (a lover, a career, a self-image) as the missing piece. Requital ends the story; longing keeps it narratable. That’s why it burns hotter. It has no ceiling.
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| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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