"The act of longing for something will always be more intense than the requiting of it"
About this Quote
“Will always” is the dare here. Godwin isn’t making room for the rare, transcendent requital; she’s naming a pattern that feels almost structural. Longing is pure narrative: it thrives on projection, on the clean architecture of “if only.” Requiting is logistical. It introduces reality’s unromantic inventory - compromises, routines, the other person’s full interior life. Desire, left unanswered, can stay perfect because it stays unfinished. Completion is a form of editing, and editing always cuts intensity.
The subtext carries a small warning disguised as insight: if you chase intensity as proof of authenticity, you may end up addicted to wanting rather than living. Godwin, a novelist attentive to the way people author their own heartbreak, is pointing to longing as a creative act - the self as storyteller, casting an object (a lover, a career, a self-image) as the missing piece. Requital ends the story; longing keeps it narratable. That’s why it burns hotter. It has no ceiling.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Later attribution: Dictionary of Proverbs (Najmussehar, 2012) modern compilationISBN: 9789350481806 · ID: zsAwBQAAQBAJ
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... The act of longing for something will always be more intense than the requiting of it . -Gail Godwin We do not succeed in changing things according to our desire , but gradually our desire changes . -Marcel Proust The greatest wealth is ... |
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