"The best manner of avenging ourselves is by not resembling him who has injured us"
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The subtext is a warning about mimicry. Injury invites imitation; we “answer” cruelty with cruelty because it feels like balance. Porter flips that reflex into a test of resemblance. If you adopt the offender’s tactics - pettiness, deceit, malice - you’re not restoring justice, you’re conceding that their style of being human sets the terms. Her formulation also sidesteps the brittle performance of moral purity. It’s not “be better” in a vacuum; it’s “don’t let them make you like them,” which lands closer to modern ideas of boundaries and dignity than to pious absolution.
Context matters: Porter wrote in a period when novels were moral laboratories, staging virtue under pressure and treating character as fate. In that world, reputation isn’t just social currency; it’s survival. So the line reads like pragmatic counsel from a culture obsessed with honor: the real victory is to keep your interior life from being colonized. Revenge that preserves the self is the only revenge she’s willing to endorse.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Porter, Jane. (2026, January 15). The best manner of avenging ourselves is by not resembling him who has injured us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-best-manner-of-avenging-ourselves-is-by-not-149242/
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Porter, Jane. "The best manner of avenging ourselves is by not resembling him who has injured us." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-best-manner-of-avenging-ourselves-is-by-not-149242/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The best manner of avenging ourselves is by not resembling him who has injured us." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-best-manner-of-avenging-ourselves-is-by-not-149242/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.











