"The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend as to find a friend worth dying for"
About this Quote
The subtext is a critique of performative valor. Epic society rewards spectacle: the bright moment on the field, the story that survives you. “Die for a friend” can be another way of dying for reputation. Homer quietly suggests that the real scarcity isn’t courage but trustworthy intimacy. A “friend worth dying for” is someone whose loyalty isn’t transactional, whose commitments hold when incentives don’t. That’s rarer than bravery, especially among elites competing for glory.
Context matters: in Homeric epics, comradeship is constantly pressured by pride, honor codes, and the temptations of revenge. Even the closest bonds can be rerouted by insult, grief, or public standing. The quote reads like an antidote to the romantic myth that sacrifice automatically ennobles. It asks for a prior audit: Who, exactly, are you laying your life down for? Is this devotion, or just a well-lit exit?
In modern terms, it’s a warning about confusing intensity with authenticity. The headline act isn’t dying. It’s choosing well enough that you never have to regret what your courage was really serving.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Later attribution: Everlasting Wisdom (Daniel Weis, 2010) modern compilationISBN: 9781907611483 · ID: T-tlrJj5_-IC
Evidence: ... The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend , as to find a friend worth dying for . Homer ( Greek poet , ca. 8th century BC ) The little trouble in the world that is not due to love is due to friendship . Edgar Watson Howe ... Other candidates (1) Introduction to the Art of Thinking (Homer, 1761)50.0% The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend, as [is the difficulty] to find a friend worth dying for. (Page 42... |
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