"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn"
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Steinem’s line lands like a crowbar aimed at the polite idea of “progress” as simple accumulation. Unlearning is a rougher verb than learning: it implies not curiosity but conflict, not adding tools but prying loose the ones you were handed. As a feminist organizer speaking into a culture that treated sexism as nature, not policy, she’s naming the real barrier to change: the habits and “common sense” that feel neutral precisely because they’re everywhere.
The syntax does quiet, strategic work. “The first problem” frames social transformation as triage; before you chase new theories, you have to stop the bleeding from old ones. “For all of us, men and women” is coalition language with an edge: patriarchy isn’t just something men do to women, it’s a training program everyone graduates from. That universality isn’t sentimental; it’s accusatory. If everyone’s been schooled in these assumptions, then everyone has homework.
The subtext is about power and comfort. Learning can flatter the learner; unlearning threatens identity. It asks people to admit that what they were praised for - being “ladylike,” being “a real man,” being “not political” - was a script. In the context of second-wave feminism’s push against institutions (work, marriage, media), Steinem’s point is tactical: you don’t win by sprinkling new facts over old hierarchies. You win by making the inherited story feel untenable, then offering something better to replace it.
The syntax does quiet, strategic work. “The first problem” frames social transformation as triage; before you chase new theories, you have to stop the bleeding from old ones. “For all of us, men and women” is coalition language with an edge: patriarchy isn’t just something men do to women, it’s a training program everyone graduates from. That universality isn’t sentimental; it’s accusatory. If everyone’s been schooled in these assumptions, then everyone has homework.
The subtext is about power and comfort. Learning can flatter the learner; unlearning threatens identity. It asks people to admit that what they were praised for - being “ladylike,” being “a real man,” being “not political” - was a script. In the context of second-wave feminism’s push against institutions (work, marriage, media), Steinem’s point is tactical: you don’t win by sprinkling new facts over old hierarchies. You win by making the inherited story feel untenable, then offering something better to replace it.
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