"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn"
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The syntax does quiet, strategic work. “The first problem” frames social transformation as triage; before you chase new theories, you have to stop the bleeding from old ones. “For all of us, men and women” is coalition language with an edge: patriarchy isn’t just something men do to women, it’s a training program everyone graduates from. That universality isn’t sentimental; it’s accusatory. If everyone’s been schooled in these assumptions, then everyone has homework.
The subtext is about power and comfort. Learning can flatter the learner; unlearning threatens identity. It asks people to admit that what they were praised for - being “ladylike,” being “a real man,” being “not political” - was a script. In the context of second-wave feminism’s push against institutions (work, marriage, media), Steinem’s point is tactical: you don’t win by sprinkling new facts over old hierarchies. You win by making the inherited story feel untenable, then offering something better to replace it.
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