"The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive"
About this Quote
The intent is pragmatic, almost behavioral. Williamson isn't prescribing immediate absolution or forced reconciliation; she's naming the hinge moment when pain stops being the sole author of your next move. "Willingness" is doing heavy lifting here. It's a modest word that lowers the bar just enough to be attainable: you don't have to be serene, you just have to be open to not staying frozen. That choice also protects her message from the common objection that forgiveness is a betrayal of the self. Willingness isn't surrender; it's consent to begin.
The subtext is spiritual without being overtly doctrinal: resentment is a kind of captivity, and the key is internal. This aligns with Williamson's broader self-help theology, where healing is a matter of perception and practice, not just justice administered from outside. It also reflects a late-20th-century therapeutic culture that values emotional autonomy and incremental change. In that world, forgiveness isn't a verdict; it's a muscle. The quote works because it refuses the melodrama of instant transformation and instead offers a first step small enough to take while you're still shaking.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
|---|---|
| Source | A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles — Marianne Williamson, 1992. |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Williamson, Marianne. (2026, January 18). The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-first-step-in-forgiveness-is-the-willingness-15874/
Chicago Style
Williamson, Marianne. "The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-first-step-in-forgiveness-is-the-willingness-15874/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-first-step-in-forgiveness-is-the-willingness-15874/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.





