"The first time you marry for love, the second for money, and the third for companionship"
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The subtext is class-coded and gendered in a way Kennedy could deploy with a straight face. For women of her era and milieu, marriage wasn’t just intimacy; it was infrastructure. Money here isn’t greed so much as security, status, insulation from scandal, and the ability to control one’s own narrative. By the time you’re choosing “companionship,” the quote implies, you’ve already learned that romance can be volatile and wealth can be transactional, so you pick the softer bargain: a person who will sit beside you through the dull parts.
Context matters because Kennedy’s public life was built on spectacle and restraint. As First Lady, she performed an idealized marriage under intense scrutiny, then endured widowhood and the ruthless economics of celebrity. Read that way, the line is less a manual than a survival note: a recognition that marriage, in the real world, is often an arrangement between desire, power, and endurance. The wit is the armor; the clarity is the confession.
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| Topic | Marriage |
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| Source | Later attribution: Marry by Choice, Not by Chance (Susan Patton, 2014) modern compilationISBN: 9781476759722 · ID: XSZCAgAAQBAJ
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