"The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is intended-and not to take a hint when a hint isn't intended"
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The craft is in the double pivot. First, “take a hint when a hint is intended” praises tact, the social grace of receiving an indirect message as if it were perfectly clear. That’s generosity: you spare someone the embarrassment of spelling out what they want. Then Frost flips it: “and not to take a hint when a hint isn’t intended.” That’s the harder discipline, because it requires resisting paranoia and projection. In close quarters, people start hearing subtext everywhere; a neutral comment becomes a judgment, a sigh becomes a referendum. Frost warns that over-interpretation is its own kind of cruelty, turning everyday speech into a minefield.
Contextually, Frost’s work is full of the drama of ordinary talk: neighbors, spouses, small misunderstandings that swell into moral weather. He knew the New England talent for understatement and the damage it can do when intimacy meets indirectness. The line lands because it treats “communication” not as a self-help ideal but as a practiced ethic: know when to read between the lines, and know when to let the lines be just lines.
Quote Details
| Topic | Family |
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| Source | Quotation attributed to Robert Frost; listed on Wikiquote (Robert Frost page). |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Frost, Robert. (2026, January 15). The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is intended-and not to take a hint when a hint isn't intended. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-greatest-thing-in-family-life-is-to-take-a-34317/
Chicago Style
Frost, Robert. "The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is intended-and not to take a hint when a hint isn't intended." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-greatest-thing-in-family-life-is-to-take-a-34317/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is intended-and not to take a hint when a hint isn't intended." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-greatest-thing-in-family-life-is-to-take-a-34317/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.








