"The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want"
About this Quote
The intent is pragmatic bordering on corrective. It’s aimed at the common modern condition of wanting “more” while staying vague enough to avoid the risk of choosing. Deciding what you want forces trade-offs. It also forces responsibility. Once you name the thing, you can’t hide behind the comforting fog of dissatisfaction; your life becomes accountable to a concrete aim. That’s the subtext: ambiguity isn’t deep, it’s evasive.
Culturally, the quote lands in a late-20th-century ecosystem of careerism and personal-brand thinking, where “goals” are treated as moral virtues. It echoes boardroom logic: strategy before execution. Yet the line’s elegance also smuggles in a blind spot. Plenty of people know exactly what they want and still face structural barriers; decision is not the only “first step.” Stein’s rhetorical move is to make agency feel total, because it’s calming. If your problem is just indecision, the fix is simple: choose, then act.
Quote Details
| Topic | Goal Setting |
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| Source | Evidence: The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want. (Chapter 1, “Decide What You Want” (page number not verifiable from available preview)). The quote is attributed on multiple quote sites to Ben Stein’s book How Successful People Win: Using “Bunkhouse Logic” to Get What You Want in Life, but those are secondary. A primary-source ebook preview hosted by Everand shows the book’s copyright and publication history: “Copyright © 1981 by Ben Stein” and “Originally published as Bunkhouse Logic in November 1981 by Avon Books.” This strongly indicates the earliest publication of the line would be in that 1981 Avon Books edition (title: Bunkhouse Logic), later revised/reprinted as How Successful People Win (Hay House; first Hay House printing March 2006). However, the preview I accessed does not expose stable print page numbering for the quote itself, so I cannot responsibly claim “p.18” as often listed on quote sites. The quote’s capitalization also appears as “Decide” in the preview, which is the exact wording copied here. Source for the publication-history statements is within the Everand preview text. ([everand.com](https://www.everand.com/book/770548009/How-Successful-People-Win-Using-Bunkhouse-Logic-to-Get-What-You-Want-in-Life)) Other candidates (1) The 7 Truths of Life (Senghor Pope, 2010) compilation95.0% ... The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this : decide what you want . —Ben Ste... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Stein, Ben. (2026, February 9). The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-indispensable-first-step-to-getting-the-170053/
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Stein, Ben. "The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want." FixQuotes. February 9, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-indispensable-first-step-to-getting-the-170053/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want." FixQuotes, 9 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-indispensable-first-step-to-getting-the-170053/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









