"The leader can never close the gap between himself and the group. If he does, he is no longer what he must be. He must walk a tightrope between the consent he must win and the control he must exert"
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The tightrope image does the real work. It frames leadership as balance under risk, not a stable identity you earn and keep. “Consent” is the democratic half of the bargain: players have to buy in, emotionally and psychologically, or the plan is just noise. But Lombardi pairs it with “control,” a word that refuses today’s softer euphemisms (“alignment,” “culture,” “influence”). Control means enforcement: playing time, practice intensity, accountability. He’s describing the uneasy truth that people want agency and also want someone to decide when it matters.
The subtext is a warning against two common leadership fantasies. One is the buddy-leader, so eager to be liked that standards become negotiable. The other is the tyrant, so obsessed with dominance that consent curdles into quiet sabotage. Lombardi’s context was a mid-century, male, hierarchical sports world, but the mechanics travel: the leader is judged on outcomes, and outcomes often require asking people to do what they wouldn’t choose on their own. The gap isn’t arrogance. It’s the job.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lombardi, Vince. (2026, January 17). The leader can never close the gap between himself and the group. If he does, he is no longer what he must be. He must walk a tightrope between the consent he must win and the control he must exert. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-leader-can-never-close-the-gap-between-36805/
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Lombardi, Vince. "The leader can never close the gap between himself and the group. If he does, he is no longer what he must be. He must walk a tightrope between the consent he must win and the control he must exert." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-leader-can-never-close-the-gap-between-36805/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The leader can never close the gap between himself and the group. If he does, he is no longer what he must be. He must walk a tightrope between the consent he must win and the control he must exert." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-leader-can-never-close-the-gap-between-36805/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.














