"The love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned"
About this Quote
The intent is deliberately anti-sentimental. Maugham isn’t praising noble suffering; he’s pointing to a psychological loophole. When love is unreturned, it becomes a private property, curated by the lover alone. You can project perfection onto the beloved, edit out contradictions, and keep the story running indefinitely because there’s no counter-author. Reciprocity introduces a second consciousness, which means compromise, miscommunication, the slow grind of familiarity. Unrequited love, by contrast, is a monologue that never gets interrupted.
The subtext is also about power. To be loved back is to be pulled into mutual obligation; to love without return is to remain sovereign in your own fantasy, even as you’re wounded by it. That mix of control and pain is what makes it durable. The ache becomes proof of depth, and time spent yearning gets mistaken for evidence of “real” love.
Contextually, Maugham wrote in a world where desire often had to be coded, deferred, or socially impossible. In that landscape, the unreachable wasn’t an accident; it was a structure. The line lands because it recognizes how easily we confuse longevity with truth, and how often permanence is just what happens when nothing ever gets resolved.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: Oxford Treasury of Sayings and Quotations (Susan Ratcliffe, 2011)
Evidence: ... The love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned . W. Somerset Maugham 1874–1965 : A Writer's Notebook ( 1949 ) written in 1894 55 I am the Love that dare not speak its name . Lord Alfred Douglas 1870-1945 : ' Two Loves ... Other candidates (2) W. Somerset Maugham (W. Somerset Maugham) compilation97.9% did less 1892 p 1 the love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned The Moon and Sixpence (Maugham, W. Somerset (William Somerset), 1965) primary45.0% they would tear a brotherauthor to pieces the moment that his back was turned th |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Maugham, W. Somerset. (2026, February 7). The love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-love-that-lasts-longest-is-the-love-that-is-17958/
Chicago Style
Maugham, W. Somerset. "The love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned." FixQuotes. February 7, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-love-that-lasts-longest-is-the-love-that-is-17958/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The love that lasts longest is the love that is never returned." FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-love-that-lasts-longest-is-the-love-that-is-17958/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.










