"The mere process of growing old together will make the slightest acquaintance seem a bosom friend"
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Aging, in Koch's telling, is the ultimate machine for manufacturing intimacy. The line flatters the unglamorous fact of civic life: you do not need a grand romance or a perfectly curated circle; you just need time, proximity, and shared weather. "Mere process" is doing a lot of work here. It's intentionally deflationary, the politician's shrug turned philosophical: no lofty ideals required, just the slow accumulation of ordinary days that sand down awkwardness and reclassify people in your mental filing system from "that person" to "one of us."
Koch, a New York mayor who lived inside handshakes, neighborhood loyalties, and public ritual, understood how relationships in a city (and in politics) often run on repetition rather than revelation. The subtext is both comforting and unsentimental. Comforting because it suggests companionship is more available than we think; unsentimental because it implies friendship can be an artifact of endurance, not necessarily of deep compatibility. The phrase "slightest acquaintance" is almost comic in its smallness, an acknowledgment of how thin our initial connections can be. Then "bosom friend" swings in with old-fashioned warmth, a deliberately inflated payoff that makes the mechanism visible: time turns scarcity into surplus.
There's also a quiet civic argument underneath. Communities aren't only built by big moments; they're built by shared aging, by watching the same streets change, by recognizing faces at the bodega long after names are forgotten. Koch is pitching solidarity as a byproduct of persistence - a democratic kind of love that doesn't ask permission to form.
Koch, a New York mayor who lived inside handshakes, neighborhood loyalties, and public ritual, understood how relationships in a city (and in politics) often run on repetition rather than revelation. The subtext is both comforting and unsentimental. Comforting because it suggests companionship is more available than we think; unsentimental because it implies friendship can be an artifact of endurance, not necessarily of deep compatibility. The phrase "slightest acquaintance" is almost comic in its smallness, an acknowledgment of how thin our initial connections can be. Then "bosom friend" swings in with old-fashioned warmth, a deliberately inflated payoff that makes the mechanism visible: time turns scarcity into surplus.
There's also a quiet civic argument underneath. Communities aren't only built by big moments; they're built by shared aging, by watching the same streets change, by recognizing faces at the bodega long after names are forgotten. Koch is pitching solidarity as a byproduct of persistence - a democratic kind of love that doesn't ask permission to form.
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