"The more we deny that we have a dark side, the more power it has over us"
About this Quote
The intent is practical, almost clinical, but the subtext is emotional: denial isn’t moral cleanliness, it’s loss of control. “Dark side” here isn’t comic-book evil; it’s the grab bag of shame, rage, envy, appetite, grief - everything we’ve been trained to edit out to remain likable and legible. Lee’s phrasing turns repression into an engine of escalation. The more forcefully you clamp down, the more psychic energy you feed the thing you’re trying to starve, until it leaks out as sabotage, compulsions, or sudden cruelty that “doesn’t feel like me.”
Culturally, the quote pushes back against two modern instincts: the brand of wellness that equates healing with vibe management, and the social-media pressure to curate a self that is always improving, always safe. It also nods to a very actorly truth: you can’t play a character by deleting their worst impulses; you have to locate them, honor them, and then choose what to do with them. The power move isn’t purity. It’s integration - naming what’s there so it stops speaking in ventriloquism.
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| Topic | Self-Improvement |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lee, Sheryl. (2026, January 16). The more we deny that we have a dark side, the more power it has over us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-more-we-deny-that-we-have-a-dark-side-the-116921/
Chicago Style
Lee, Sheryl. "The more we deny that we have a dark side, the more power it has over us." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-more-we-deny-that-we-have-a-dark-side-the-116921/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The more we deny that we have a dark side, the more power it has over us." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-more-we-deny-that-we-have-a-dark-side-the-116921/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.





