"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in"
About this Quote
The real bite is in the pairing: “give out” and “let it come in.” Giving love is socially rewarded; it flatters our self-image as generous, supportive, “good.” Letting love in is harder, because it requires vulnerability, dependence, and the willingness to be seen without the protective armor of competence. Schwartz smuggles a critique of control into a warm-sounding maxim: many of us would rather perform care than receive it, because receiving implies need. In that sense, the quote isn’t just about affection; it’s about dignity and fear.
As an educator (and, in the popular afterlife of Tuesdays with Morrie, a teacher facing mortality), Schwartz is also addressing time. When the clock is loud enough, the usual metrics of success stop making sense, and the neglected curriculum of emotional reciprocity becomes urgent. The sentence works because it’s symmetrical, almost instructional: two directions, both required. Love isn’t a one-way donation or a private feeling; it’s an exchange you must allow to happen.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Tuesdays with Morrie (Mitch Albom, 1997) — quote attributed to Morrie Schwartz in the memoir. |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Schwartz, Morrie. (2026, January 15). The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-most-important-thing-in-life-is-to-learn-how-5172/
Chicago Style
Schwartz, Morrie. "The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-most-important-thing-in-life-is-to-learn-how-5172/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-most-important-thing-in-life-is-to-learn-how-5172/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.














