"The pat on the back, the arm around the shoulder, the praise for what was done right and the sympathetic nod for what wasn't are as much a part of golf as life itself"
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The subtext is a defense of decency as practice, not posture. Golf famously polices itself: you call your own penalties, you keep your own score, you live with the lie you got. Ford is implying that what keeps people upright isn’t constant triumph but the community’s steady calibration - affirmation when you earn it, a humane shrug when you don’t. There’s also a politician’s realism here: failure is inevitable; what matters is whether the group lets you keep playing.
As a president who sold himself as normal, steady, and morally legible, Ford uses golf as a metaphor with plausible deniability. He’s not sermonizing about unity; he’s describing the rituals that manufacture it. In an era of suspicion, that’s not small talk. It’s a governing philosophy in soft spikes.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ford, Gerald R. (2026, January 17). The pat on the back, the arm around the shoulder, the praise for what was done right and the sympathetic nod for what wasn't are as much a part of golf as life itself. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-pat-on-the-back-the-arm-around-the-shoulder-53418/
Chicago Style
Ford, Gerald R. "The pat on the back, the arm around the shoulder, the praise for what was done right and the sympathetic nod for what wasn't are as much a part of golf as life itself." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-pat-on-the-back-the-arm-around-the-shoulder-53418/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The pat on the back, the arm around the shoulder, the praise for what was done right and the sympathetic nod for what wasn't are as much a part of golf as life itself." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-pat-on-the-back-the-arm-around-the-shoulder-53418/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.



