"The real enemy can always be met and conquered, or won over. Real antagonism is based on love, a love which has not recognized itself"
About this Quote
The subtext is psychological and, in Miller’s way, erotic: we reserve our fiercest bitterness for what we’re entangled with. Antagonism “based on love” isn’t Hallmark sentiment; it’s accusation. Love becomes combustible when it can’t admit its own dependency, when pride or fear forces it to dress up as contempt. The line “has not recognized itself” matters because it frames hatred as misnamed attachment, not moral clarity. You don’t argue that hard with strangers.
Context helps. Miller wrote out of the wreckage of respectability and the churn of modern relationships, turning inner life into a battlefield where sex, shame, freedom, and need keep switching uniforms. He’s suspicious of ideological enemies because they’re too neat; his real interest is the private war: the spouse you resent because they saw your weakness, the friend you undercut because you wanted their attention, the society you denounce because you crave its applause.
It works because it flatters no one. The enemy you can “conquer” is a fantasy. The antagonism you can’t drop is the confession.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Miller, Henry. (2026, January 18). The real enemy can always be met and conquered, or won over. Real antagonism is based on love, a love which has not recognized itself. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-real-enemy-can-always-be-met-and-conquered-or-14153/
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Miller, Henry. "The real enemy can always be met and conquered, or won over. Real antagonism is based on love, a love which has not recognized itself." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-real-enemy-can-always-be-met-and-conquered-or-14153/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The real enemy can always be met and conquered, or won over. Real antagonism is based on love, a love which has not recognized itself." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-real-enemy-can-always-be-met-and-conquered-or-14153/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







