"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel"
About this Quote
The intent is pastoral without being preachy. As a gospel musician, Franklin is writing in a tradition that takes emotional honesty seriously while still aiming for uplift. He’s not diagnosing insecurity as a personal defect; he’s reframing it as a predictable distortion created by bad data. You’re not failing at confidence, he implies, you’re making an unfair comparison between raw footage and marketing.
The subtext is a critique of performance as a social default. If everyone is incentivized to present an “after” photo, then the viewer’s “during” will always feel inadequate. Franklin also slips in a gentle call to humility: you don’t actually know other people’s costs, compromises, or chaos, because you’re not in their cutting room.
It works because it doesn’t demand that you stop caring what people think - an impossible ask. It simply asks you to compare like with like, and to remember that most lives look better when they’re edited.
Quote Details
| Topic | Confidence |
|---|---|
| Source | Interview with Oprah Winfrey / Oprah.com (date not specified; widely cited quote attributed to Kirk Franklin in Oprah.com features/interviews) |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Franklin, Kirk. (2026, January 30). The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-reason-we-struggle-with-insecurity-is-because-184826/
Chicago Style
Franklin, Kirk. "The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel." FixQuotes. January 30, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-reason-we-struggle-with-insecurity-is-because-184826/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel." FixQuotes, 30 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-reason-we-struggle-with-insecurity-is-because-184826/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







