"The relationships that people have - that are sexual, psychological, emotional - these relationships are not open to supervision by parents, schools, churches, or government. Nobody has any right to intervene at all in any kind of relationship like that"
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The absolutism is the point. "Not open to supervision" and "Nobody has any right" rejects the usual liberal compromise language (reasonable limits, community standards, safeguarding) and instead frames oversight itself as a category error. Parents, schools, churches, government: four pillars of authority, named with prosecutorial rhythm, each implicated in the same impulse to police intimacy. It's a deliberately flat list, collapsing sacred and secular power into one machine of coercion.
Context matters because O'Hair was a famous, polarizing atheist activist in a mid-century America where "family values" rhetoric often doubled as an enforcement mechanism, especially around sexuality, gender roles, and nonconforming lives. The subtext is suspicion: moral guardians don't merely "protect" people; they recruit shame and institutional power to make certain relationships legible and others punishable.
There's also a strategic provocation here. The totalizing claim invites pushback (abuse, exploitation, coercion), but that friction is part of her method: force the listener to admit how quickly "supervision" becomes surveillance, and how eagerly institutions treat private life as their jurisdiction.
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O'Hair, Madalyn Murray. (2026, January 15). The relationships that people have - that are sexual, psychological, emotional - these relationships are not open to supervision by parents, schools, churches, or government. Nobody has any right to intervene at all in any kind of relationship like that. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-relationships-that-people-have-that-are-81432/
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O'Hair, Madalyn Murray. "The relationships that people have - that are sexual, psychological, emotional - these relationships are not open to supervision by parents, schools, churches, or government. Nobody has any right to intervene at all in any kind of relationship like that." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-relationships-that-people-have-that-are-81432/.
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"The relationships that people have - that are sexual, psychological, emotional - these relationships are not open to supervision by parents, schools, churches, or government. Nobody has any right to intervene at all in any kind of relationship like that." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-relationships-that-people-have-that-are-81432/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.





