"The remoteness of my parents from the schools, so unfashionable today, was often painful for me, but I learned early to deal with an outside and sometimes hard world"
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The sentence works because it holds two truths in tension without melodrama. “Often painful for me” admits the child’s embarrassment and the social exposure that comes with it - the parent-teacher night where you feel different, the scholarship kid scanning for cues. But Perl immediately converts that pain into a kind of training regimen: “I learned early to deal with an outside and sometimes hard world.” That phrasing is telling. He doesn’t say he escaped it. He implies he built a working relationship with it, learning the emotional physics of rejection, gatekeeping, and self-reliance.
Context matters: Perl became a Nobel-winning experimental physicist, a field that prizes rigor yet runs on mentorship and institutional access. The subtext is a quiet rebuke to meritocracy-as-fable. Talent is real, but so is friction. Perl’s claim is that friction can be formative - not romantic, not fair, but instructive. He frames toughness as a learned skill, not a personality trait, and in doing so makes his later scientific persistence feel less like destiny and more like practiced survival.
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Perl, Martin Lewis. (n.d.). The remoteness of my parents from the schools, so unfashionable today, was often painful for me, but I learned early to deal with an outside and sometimes hard world. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-remoteness-of-my-parents-from-the-schools-so-16546/
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Perl, Martin Lewis. "The remoteness of my parents from the schools, so unfashionable today, was often painful for me, but I learned early to deal with an outside and sometimes hard world." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-remoteness-of-my-parents-from-the-schools-so-16546/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The remoteness of my parents from the schools, so unfashionable today, was often painful for me, but I learned early to deal with an outside and sometimes hard world." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-remoteness-of-my-parents-from-the-schools-so-16546/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.






