"The repressed memory is like a noisy intruder being thrown out of the concert hall. You can throw him out, but he will bang on the door and continue to disturb the concert. The analyst opens the door and says, "If you promise to behave yourself, you can come back in""
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The analyst’s role is the twist that reveals the ethic of mid-century psychoanalysis: not exorcism but negotiation. “If you promise to behave yourself” sounds almost parental, which is the subtext - treatment is a controlled re-entry into social order. The repressed memory is granted a conditional citizenship: it can return, but it must be translated into something the ego can tolerate. That’s a quietly radical claim. The goal isn’t purity or silence; it’s integration, a managed coexistence between what we want to know and what we’ve trained ourselves to avoid.
Contextually, Reik is writing from a Freudian lineage that prized interpretation over suppression and framed symptoms as messages rather than malfunctions. The metaphor also flatters the analyst’s authority: the clinician becomes the usher who can restore the performance. Yet it admits something patients often feel in their bones - the psyche doesn’t respond to brute force. It responds to listening, and to terms.
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Reik, Theodor. (2026, February 17). The repressed memory is like a noisy intruder being thrown out of the concert hall. You can throw him out, but he will bang on the door and continue to disturb the concert. The analyst opens the door and says, "If you promise to behave yourself, you can come back in". FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-repressed-memory-is-like-a-noisy-intruder-99394/
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Reik, Theodor. "The repressed memory is like a noisy intruder being thrown out of the concert hall. You can throw him out, but he will bang on the door and continue to disturb the concert. The analyst opens the door and says, "If you promise to behave yourself, you can come back in"." FixQuotes. February 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-repressed-memory-is-like-a-noisy-intruder-99394/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The repressed memory is like a noisy intruder being thrown out of the concert hall. You can throw him out, but he will bang on the door and continue to disturb the concert. The analyst opens the door and says, "If you promise to behave yourself, you can come back in"." FixQuotes, 17 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-repressed-memory-is-like-a-noisy-intruder-99394/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.







