"The romantic love we feel toward the opposite sex is probably one extra help from God to bring you together, but that's it. All the rest of it, the true love, is the test"
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The harder move is calling "true love" a test. That word drags love out of the perfume aisle and into something like stamina, ethics, and daily behavior. A test implies friction: time, boredom, money, family, cultural expectations, the small humiliations of cohabitation. It also implies failure is possible, which is a notably unsentimental position for an actress speaking from within industries that sell romance as destiny and climax. Chen’s subtext is that passion is cheap in the sense that it’s abundant; commitment is expensive because it costs you choices, ego, and often the story you wanted your life to be.
There’s a generational and cross-cultural realism in the God language too. She borrows a spiritual metaphor to validate the initial feeling, then refuses to let that validation excuse what comes after. The intent isn’t to dismiss romance; it’s to reassign it. Chemistry gets you to the starting line. The relationship starts when the fog lifts and you still decide to stay, act decently, and build something that survives daylight.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Chen, Joan. (2026, January 17). The romantic love we feel toward the opposite sex is probably one extra help from God to bring you together, but that's it. All the rest of it, the true love, is the test. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-romantic-love-we-feel-toward-the-opposite-sex-68010/
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Chen, Joan. "The romantic love we feel toward the opposite sex is probably one extra help from God to bring you together, but that's it. All the rest of it, the true love, is the test." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-romantic-love-we-feel-toward-the-opposite-sex-68010/.
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"The romantic love we feel toward the opposite sex is probably one extra help from God to bring you together, but that's it. All the rest of it, the true love, is the test." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-romantic-love-we-feel-toward-the-opposite-sex-68010/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.













