"The secret of how to live without resentment or embarrassment in a world in which I was different from everyone else. was to be indifferent to that difference"
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The phrasing is doing quiet work. “Secret” sounds like self-help, but the lesson is anti-performative. He’s not promising belonging; he’s proposing immunity. “Indifferent to that difference” isn’t denial of reality so much as refusal to let identity become a running commentary track. In a culture that weaponizes otherness by demanding either defiance or shame, indifference is a kind of misdirection: you take away the audience’s favorite prop.
Context matters. Capp was a master of American satire, steeped in the mid-century machinery of conformity and its counterpart, the spectacle of the outsider. Comics thrive on types, labels, and the punchline that arrives when someone reacts exactly as expected. Capp’s advice is, essentially: don’t be the punchline. The subtext is both liberating and hard-edged: society’s judgment has power largely when you help narrate it. Indifference becomes a survival tactic, a way to live without constantly negotiating your right to occupy the room. It’s not warmth; it’s leverage.
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