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Faith & Spirit Quote by Marcus Aurelius

"The sexual embrace can only be compared with music and with prayer"

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For a stoic emperor-soldier, elevating sex to the level of music and prayer isn’t a soft-hearted detour; it’s a disciplined act of classification. Marcus Aurelius is reaching for the rare experiences that pull the self out of its noisy, managerial mind and into something wordless, patterned, and larger than individual appetite. Music is ordered sensation: rhythm, harmony, breath. Prayer is ordered attention: submission, awe, alignment. By pairing the “sexual embrace” with those two, he argues that the body can produce transcendence without pretending the body is trivial or shameful.

The intent is also political and ethical. Marcus writes from a world where power is constant and privacy is scarce, where an emperor’s desires can easily become another form of domination. Framing sex as akin to prayer quietly rebukes coercion and performance. Prayer, after all, is not conquest; it’s a kind of humility. Music is not possession; it’s participation. The embrace, at its best, becomes a mutual ritual rather than a transaction.

Subtext: sex can be sacred without being sanctimonious. He’s not praising indulgence; he’s praising attunement. That fits a Stoic’s obsession with right use of impressions: the point isn’t to kill desire, but to put it in its proper register. In a militarized life of campaigns and command, the most radical pleasure may be the one that dissolves rank, quiets ego, and briefly makes two people listen to the same rhythm.

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Marcus Aurelius

Marcus Aurelius (April 26, 121 - March 17, 180) was a Soldier from Rome.

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