"The state and the church seldom approve of anything I do. I don't need their approval. I don't aspire to the heterosexual nuclear family model"
About this Quote
"I don't need their approval" lands like a boundary, not a manifesto. The subtext is about power: approval is currency, and she’s opting out of that economy. For a working actress, that choice carries particular bite. Hollywood sells rebellion, but it still runs on respectability politics - awards-season optics, brand-safe personal narratives, the public-relations version of adulthood. Guy’s phrasing treats institutional validation as optional, even slightly embarrassing to seek.
The final sentence clarifies what the approval is often contingent on: aspiring to the heterosexual nuclear family model, the default script that gets framed as stability, patriotism, and "values". She doesn’t argue against family; she rejects the compulsory version of it, the one that turns identity into a checkbox and intimacy into a social contract.
Context matters: Guy came up in an era when Black women in entertainment were routinely tasked with projecting "wholesome" relatability while being denied privacy and complexity. Her statement is a small, sharp act of narrative ownership: you don’t get to define my life, and you don’t get to make your definition the prize.
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| Topic | Freedom |
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Guy, Jasmine. (2026, January 17). The state and the church seldom approve of anything I do. I don't need their approval. I don't aspire to the heterosexual nuclear family model. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-state-and-the-church-seldom-approve-of-63570/
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Guy, Jasmine. "The state and the church seldom approve of anything I do. I don't need their approval. I don't aspire to the heterosexual nuclear family model." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-state-and-the-church-seldom-approve-of-63570/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The state and the church seldom approve of anything I do. I don't need their approval. I don't aspire to the heterosexual nuclear family model." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-state-and-the-church-seldom-approve-of-63570/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.

