"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget"
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The “stupid” person “neither forgive nor forget” because grievance becomes identity; memory hardens into a story that justifies permanent retaliation. The “naive” “forgive and forget” because they treat forgiveness as amnesia, confusing moral cleanliness with self-erasure. That’s the subtext: forgetting isn’t virtue, it’s vulnerability. It invites repetition of harm, especially in relationships and institutions where incentives don’t change.
Then comes the Szaszian ideal: “wise forgive but do not forget.” It preserves agency. Forgiveness here isn’t denial of damage; it’s the refusal to stay emotionally conscripted by the past while still keeping a clear record of reality. In the context of Szasz’s broader work critiquing coercion and euphemism in psychiatry and social control, the line also reads as a warning against enforced reconciliation. You can release the rage without surrendering the evidence. Memory becomes boundary-setting, not brooding: a moral ledger kept not to punish forever, but to prevent being fooled twice.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Szasz, Thomas. (2026, January 14). The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-stupid-neither-forgive-nor-forget-the-naive-165903/
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Szasz, Thomas. "The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-stupid-neither-forgive-nor-forget-the-naive-165903/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-stupid-neither-forgive-nor-forget-the-naive-165903/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







