"The thing I learned the most is that if you approach people with openness and without judgment, they will open their lives to you"
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The subtext lands harder when you place it against Zhao’s signature approach in Nomadland and The Rider, where non-actors play versions of themselves and the films borrow the textures of real precarious lives. In that context, “open their lives to you” isn’t sentimental; it’s ethically loaded. She’s acknowledging how intimate (and potentially invasive) storytelling can be, and suggesting a constraint: you don’t get to translate someone else’s pain into art unless you’ve met them as a person first.
There’s also a cultural critique tucked inside the softness. Modern media thrives on hot takes, moral sorting, and quick diagnosis. Zhao is arguing for the opposite tempo: time, listening, restraint. It’s a reminder that authenticity isn’t a filter you apply in post; it’s a relationship you build, and one you can ruin the moment you show up with conclusions already made.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
| Source | Press interview during Nomadland awards season (Director Q&A), 2020–2021 |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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Zhao, Chloé. (n.d.). The thing I learned the most is that if you approach people with openness and without judgment, they will open their lives to you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-i-learned-the-most-is-that-if-you-184249/
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Zhao, Chloé. "The thing I learned the most is that if you approach people with openness and without judgment, they will open their lives to you." FixQuotes. Accessed February 1, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-i-learned-the-most-is-that-if-you-184249/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The thing I learned the most is that if you approach people with openness and without judgment, they will open their lives to you." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-i-learned-the-most-is-that-if-you-184249/. Accessed 1 Feb. 2026.





