"The thing you realize as you get older is that parents don't know what the Hell they're doing and neither will you when you get to be a parent"
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The intent is equal parts comfort and warning. Comfort, because it reframes your childhood disappointments: the gaps, the weird rules, the overreactions weren’t necessarily malice or incompetence so much as people winging it under pressure. Warning, because it refuses the fantasy that you’ll “do it right” when it’s your turn. The subtext is a quiet critique of the cultural myth of mastery: we treat parenting like a role you graduate into, when it’s really a job you take while still unfinished.
Coming from a musician identified with pop-punk’s arrested-development honesty, it hits harder. That scene thrives on puncturing polished adulthood and admitting fear, confusion, and soft-heartedness beneath the sarcasm. The line also sneaks in solidarity: you’re not uniquely broken for not having it together. Your parents weren’t villains or sages; they were just earlier versions of you, trying to look convincing while the stakes kept rising.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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Hoppus, Mark. (2026, January 15). The thing you realize as you get older is that parents don't know what the Hell they're doing and neither will you when you get to be a parent. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-you-realize-as-you-get-older-is-that-135402/
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Hoppus, Mark. "The thing you realize as you get older is that parents don't know what the Hell they're doing and neither will you when you get to be a parent." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-you-realize-as-you-get-older-is-that-135402/.
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"The thing you realize as you get older is that parents don't know what the Hell they're doing and neither will you when you get to be a parent." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-thing-you-realize-as-you-get-older-is-that-135402/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






