"The things we remember best are those better forgotten"
About this Quote
Gracian, a Baroque-era Spanish moralist and Jesuit, wrote in a culture obsessed with reputation, discipline, and the management of appearances. His aphorisms are survival tools for court politics and spiritual self-policing. The subtext is pragmatic: if you can’t choose what you remember, at least recognize memory’s bias and build strategies around it. The “better forgotten” isn’t simply personal therapy talk; it’s an ethics of attention. What you repeatedly replay becomes a private instructor, often teaching the wrong lesson: cynicism, timidity, vengeance, self-contempt.
The intent carries a faintly cynical edge typical of Gracian’s style. He’s not promising catharsis, he’s warning about mental economy: the most vivid recollections are frequently the least useful, because they keep you anchored to past defeats or transgressions. In a world where honor could make or break you, the mind’s tendency to memorialize the embarrassing moment is not just unfortunate, it’s politically dangerous. Gracian’s neat cruelty is to suggest that memory, left unchecked, is an enemy disguised as fidelity.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Gracian, Baltasar. (2026, January 17). The things we remember best are those better forgotten. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-things-we-remember-best-are-those-better-46751/
Chicago Style
Gracian, Baltasar. "The things we remember best are those better forgotten." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-things-we-remember-best-are-those-better-46751/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The things we remember best are those better forgotten." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-things-we-remember-best-are-those-better-46751/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.









