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Love & Passion Quote by James Dickey

"The true feeling of sex is that of a deep intimacy, but above all of a deep complicity"

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Dickey’s line refuses the Hallmark vocabulary of sex and swaps in a darker, more novelistic pair of words: intimacy and complicity. Intimacy is expected; complicity is the tell. It smuggles in the idea that sex isn’t just closeness, it’s an agreement - sometimes tacit, sometimes thrillingly explicit - to step outside the ordinary rules. That’s the subtext: desire as a private conspiracy, a shared risk, a mutual “we know what this means,” even when no one says it.

The phrasing does quiet work. “True feeling” sets up a corrective, as if Dickey is pushing back against the easy cultural story that sex is mainly release, romance, or status. “Deep” repeats like a pulse, insisting that the point isn’t technique or spectacle but immersion: the sense of being in something together. Then “above all” elevates complicity to the core emotion, not a side effect. Complicity can be tender - the comfort of being fully seen - but it’s also morally charged. It hints at secrecy, transgression, the possibility of betrayal, the way sex can bind two people into a unit that’s briefly more important than spouses, friends, reputations, even their own stated values.

Coming from a novelist with Dickey’s era and temperament, the context matters: postwar masculinity, Southern codes, and a literary tradition fascinated by what people do when civilization’s varnish thins. He’s not sanitizing sex; he’s diagnosing it as a pact that can console, compromise, or corrupt - sometimes all at once.

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Dickey, James. (n.d.). The true feeling of sex is that of a deep intimacy, but above all of a deep complicity. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-true-feeling-of-sex-is-that-of-a-deep-90275/

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Dickey, James. "The true feeling of sex is that of a deep intimacy, but above all of a deep complicity." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-true-feeling-of-sex-is-that-of-a-deep-90275/.

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"The true feeling of sex is that of a deep intimacy, but above all of a deep complicity." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-true-feeling-of-sex-is-that-of-a-deep-90275/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.

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James Dickey (February 2, 1923 - January 19, 1997) was a Novelist from USA.

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